Do I need sex
Hello everybody. I decided to discuss a problem that each of us will sooner or later have to one degree or another. Someone later, someone earlier. It so happened that I am already 28 years old, there was still no intimacy. Well, at the age of 14-16, of course, I was anxious, like everyone else at this age (well, maturation, there, hormones, all the cases ...), but there was no chance to hook up, and the girls are beautiful, honestly speaking , did not have. Therefore, the institute, work, and somehow, over time, stopped thinking about it. Here I recently caught myself thinking that I had not thought about sex for several years. At first I started to worry, I even got to the dating site - well, it would be high time, but then the realization came that ..... that I did not want to at all. No, the erection is normal, don't think, I checked it - it works as before, but on the psychological level, the desire has completely disappeared. Well, roughly, as if you are well-fed, and a plate with delicious food is placed in front of you, but you absolutely do not feel like eating, and even the taste of food is not an argument. That is, of course, you can eat if you want, but you have to overpower yourself. For some time I arrived in depression, went to the doctor. He said that this is a completely normal phenomenon and it happens to everyone, only now ..... after 40k. "Midlife crisis" is called. I was blunt: "Am I already old?" He explained - they say, no. It's just that everyone's body is different, for some it comes earlier, for someone later. Well, there, I prescribed some pills, I don't remember. The pills, as usual, did not help, and in the meantime I wondered: do I need it? No, well, it's clear that everyone should have a family there, sort of, that's great (though, for most families you can't tell) ..... etc. etc. But who invented this? Well, that everyone should have sex? What if I don’t want to? It's about as sweet - most people love candy and some don't. And it's not that they can't, they just don't want to. Ask a person why he doesn't like sweets, or, say, doesn't drink, so he can't really answer. Will start to fill in about harm to health ... but you must agree, when we really want something, we usually do not care about health)))) So I decided, nafig it is necessary, although the genus still should be continued. I went to the site of the sperm bank, read it. It turns out that everything is not so difficult: you pass the test, they examine it, and if you are healthy, you can donate the hormone. You immediately kill two birds with one stone: firstly, from one such change, on average, up to 50 people are made (not bad!), that is, you can live with a clear conscience, knowing that you have continued your family with interest, and probably in a couple of hundred years, every 10th inhabitant of the country will be your descendant (like Genghis Khan), secondly, they will also pay for it) ). And you don’t need to force yourself, and why to forcibly create a family if you don’t want to? - anyway, such a family will end up unhappy ...What is your opinion?
ps
Those who are now 16 - please refrain from "opinion", you still cannot understand this situation now, you can just laugh, and when you turn 30 - remember this story.
Emae you probably play a lot on the computer ... I don’t know how, but it seems like this factor also affects.
"Sex" is not needed. You need emotional and physical attachment, living alone you deprive yourself of many joys in life. The joy of communication between a man and a girl / woman is dictated by the fact that psychologically we (boys and girls) are different. It is women who charge us with positive and inspire us to feats! When a beautiful woman appears in a men's team, labor productivity increases significantly. The men will fluff their "tails", although mind you, this business relationship is not personal, in personal life the return is even greater, which is why we (men) are crazy about beautiful women.
Now on the topic, most likely you have not found "your" person, figure out the reasons for what is happening.
The age of entering into an intimate relationship does not matter, perhaps you have fear in dealing with the opposite sex or other not psychological but social problems.
Drop your correspondence on the forum, go outside and meet girls, their whole army of beautiful walks.
You will gain experience from relationships - based on which you can make a choice, and I hope you will be happy!
So it is harmful for a man to abstain. TS gave an example with food, and so, I'll say this: "appetite comes with eating" =)
grafonoman
But this does not mean that there is absolutely no chance of finding your soul mate There
are, of course, of course. But getting used to life with her will be more difficult if you have lived alone for a long time. You live for your beloved, you do everything only for yourself. second half, you already need to live for her, and continue for your beloved. And then it turns out that you are an egoist.
Buba-MokpyLLlHuk
Author, do you feel anything when a beautiful girl passes by you?
Sasha Zadorin
I will say for myself, I play on the computer only when I have nothing to do, I have a job, an apartment (my parents adjusted it), I am 184 tall, I swing, I run, in general, I’m not super macho, but averagely pretty and I have a little muscle. But I just never understood what to do with girls, moreover, now I look back at my life, although there was little female attention, I was always pretty outwardly for girls - when I changed school, a group at the university, etc., beautiful classmates always sat down with me, to meet ... But I just did not perceive it in any way. You just know that something is missing in your head from birth, you don’t perceive all this inter-sex play, and then when the hormones are extinguished, after 22 years you stop wanting. And if you masturbate on porn, then just a pipe happens, the remnants of your arousal reflexes,
Gee. At 30, a virgin. )
Not well, in general, this is possible, of course, but what about the same hormones.
Although in our hectic time, there is enough stress. Plus the availability of all sorts of pictures and videos. That is not our time, when specific cards were erased to holes .. and bourgeois posters, you could see, only someone with a thread in the underground, and that is rare. )
Therefore, in our time, perhaps this is normal. Scientists, by the way, have long ago identified this problem. I advise you to read Experiment Universe-25. Quite amusing reading. )
Kooper123
You know, everything is exactly the opposite. I began to refrain from masturbation and felt a surge of strength. Muscle mass increased and body hair began to appear where there was none. I stopped sleeping for 12 hours and my mood became better. Sometimes tension rolls over, yes, but if you endure it, you go on walking briskly, and after jerking off you want to devour and sleep, I think after sex the same way, because you spend even more energy with it.
And about prostatitis, this is a delusion. There is such a mechanism as emission. Your body itself knows when to "empty the tanks"
Mikhail Mutovin
I'm not talking about masturbation. Masturbation and sex are different things. As for prostatitis, it's not just about emptying the tanks.
mr.Vladimir
"... And they allowed us to live in the apartment they rented out ...." - that's where we had to start. This is what they helped, and how! Who would let me live)) I think otherwise everything would not last long. I don’t know how in Altai, but in Moscow it costs 30 thousand or more to rent a hut, if you have a salary of 40, take away housing and communal services and taxes from it, how much will be left? Not to mention the fact that I personally think that getting married and renting a house, and even with a child, is stupid and impractical. By the word "earning" I mean a salary of at least 60 thousand in order to fully provide for both oneself and the family, and interrupting from bread to kvass, taking academics is not life, but existence. I've seen a lot of such families, nothing good. And this is on condition that you and your wife are lucky, but I was not lucky (wrote above), here you are ... Read the story of one of my friends (I wrote above) - their parents also let them in, now they are climbing into a noose. And I think this: you must first get on your feet, and only then multiply, and quitting school is not wise. It is necessary to study from 18-25, then it will not be up to that, and it will be very difficult to finish your studies in parallel with work - I know from myself.
Russian_Lawyer Do
n’t comment on my child, it’s violet to me what you believe in and what you can do and what you don’t. I know how it is. I have not seen my classmates for 9 years, you should not project your environment onto other people, you can be wrong. As I said, if you cannot do something, it is not a fact that others cannot. And with your snotty attempts to drive someone into the framework of your fantasies, you only show how wretched you are. No need to answer, you said everything about yourself.
7Rain7
friend, you can look at my age higher, and scamming and caring is a dubious matter, in some cases it attracts fraud, not to mention that the phenomenon is not so old, and if you saw classmates 9 years ago, then you graduated from the university, somewhere in 2006, it means that you were 18 in 2000-2001, if you studied for 5 years, if you studied for 4 years, then in 2002-2003, then mobile phones only entered wide circulation, so don't pee! And I played on the currency exchange and invested in mutual funds (if you heard about them), you can earn money on ice cream, or on an average car, but you cannot live on that. So your lies do not impress anyone, especially those who understand. This is from the series: ".... I saved money on a computer for breakfast ....." And business at 16 is a complete garbage: there are many oligarchs and thieves in law on the PG)) there are also "former special forces".
Kooper123
Masturbation and sex are different things.
And how are they different?
x [GAMER] x
Since the site turns out to be a game, the difference in this case is both SinglePlayer and MultiPlayer.
Wing42
Well, here I am about the same. Pretty much the same. The gameplay is the same, only the number of players is different.
ImamHattab
ok
Mikhail Mutovin
damn it, I also thought about a prostitute at one time, but it's scary - you pick up the infection, then life will surely end
[Denis Aleksandrovich]
but here's the catch, maybe my worldview has changed, but I haven't seen beautiful ones for a long time women)), sometimes I go to the subway and look out for them on purpose, as if they were twisted. Or maybe I just forgot how to appreciate beauty ...
lokkie,
don’t tell me , everyone rubbed in, they say sex is useful, its absence is harmful, etc., BUT - monks live without sex for up to 100 years, and ordinary people (in particular, in Russia ) die early, according to statistics, a man dies from 50-70, although they have sex, why doesn't he save them?
Mister KOT
probably will not force events yet, if lucky is good, unlucky is so. There was such garbage with smoking: I did not smoke and did not want to, I lived normally. In my senior years I decided to try it - I didn't like it. But I listened to the idiots who said: they say, you need to try it, you don't understand what you refuse (the same thing as they say about sex now), and lit a cigarette - tasted it, damn it ... Then after a couple of years I began to notice the consequences on the breathing apparatus (boxing was engaged), showed willpower - gave up. But here's the problem: until I knew this "pleasure", so I lived and everything was great, and now several years have passed, but sometimes I still want to "smoke the plane tree". So I think, if I stayed true to myself, it would be better.