No one is friends with me (Stellaris)

Dima Ogorodnikov
"we must look for races suitable for ideology: militarists will not make friends with pacifists. You need to pay attention to the forms of government: monarchists with aggressive democrats too"
You are wrong. I have the first race I met Donkeys are democrats-pacifists + friction of borders, so after a couple of years they agreed to form an alliance, despite the fact that my people are oligarchs-militarists.

Thorny83 Nope
, I'm right.
I have a protective bureaucracy and I have minus 50 points of relations with such races.
It is necessary for such races: republic + individualism + militarism.

How else can you improve relations besides the embassy?
I just tried to donate a bunch of resources - it doesn’t rob (Even accept with reluctance)
I have neighbors -250 insult and another -50 friction of borders, like a pancake I will remove the borders, the insult is not clear where it came from, I did not offend this race and how to me remove it

I don't know guys, what are the problems? I usually invite all my neighbors to join my alliance, to those who refused to declare rivalry, then I kill one and become his vassals, so as not to bathe with his race and minuses of happiness. And again I send invitations to the alliance to the rest of the neighbors. It happens that someone enters, and if not, I kill the next one and again become his vassals, and so on. The advantages are that there is no need to raise happiness to the region that would have acquired, these riots are constant ... and if I need a fleet or there are rivers, planets to capture, so I settle my race through colonization. And also military assistance comes from the vassals, as well as from the allies from the alliance, so I think it will be necessary to kill all allies and transfer them to vassals)))

In general, the AIs were fucking crazy. All of the alliances dispersed. And nobody invited me.
And then two alliances at once attacked me. And how to play here?

Ilya Rak
As an option, split a small empire into an empire with your worldview (free the planet), conclude an alliance and then fight, giving the captured planets to them, raising an ally for yourself.

Ansaphone
I have neighbors -250 insult and another -50 friction of borders, like a pancake I will remove the borders, the insult is not clear where it came from, I did not insult this race and how can I remove this
Insult they themselves hung on you. A neighboring empire might get angry for insulting or attacking their friends. Look at what the relationship has fallen for, if you haven't fought with her before, haven't touched your friends - prepare the fleet and make her a vassal. Under you, they can take offense even to the bitter end.
Another option: send an embassy to them and fight with their enemies, as soon as you switch to friendship - call them to the alliance.

Ilya Rak
All dispersed in alliances. And nobody invited me.
And then two alliances at once attacked me. And how to play here?
The correct question should be: "what were you doing until the moment when everyone went into alliances?"