Friends with a dark past
In this thread, we will talk about the benefits / harms of friends and acquaintances with a dark past, as well as the advisability of establishing such acquaintances. Let's talk about people connected in one way or another with the criminal world: thieves in law, criminals, criminals, leaning back and other people with sins behind their backs.It's not a secret for anyone that now there are practically no people with a wide circle of acquaintances, among whom (among friends) there would be no people who were not sitting or clean before the law. Almost everyone has at least one friend or just an acquaintance who has committed crimes in the past or was imprisoned in high security colonies. Friend-ex-prisoner - now you will see so few people. Vice versa.
It is very annoying to hear when some moralist speaks badly of people who were sitting just because they were sitting. Or about thieves in law. The only reason for hatred towards such a person is that he has committed a crime, he achieves goals by illegal means, and so on. Everything. At the same time, he does not care at all what kind of person he is, as a person and what is on his mind. Judging a person by a couple of actions is a delusion if you are not personally familiar with him. Many people make mistakes and change, this is not at all a reason to offend a person just because of any one mistake. You can end up badly if you allow yourself to say this in the wrong place at the wrong time.
I believe that any kind of acquaintance is needed. Acquaintances among criminals and those who were in prison in some way can be useful to an ordinary person, since they imply very useful connections that can be used (provided that they are friendly or friendly). So I do not advise putting an end to a person right away just because of his dark past (or even the present). All sin.
For example, in our company we have a moored Zinovy, an adult man over thirty years ago, he leaned back 4.5 years ago, went to the zone, for murder, an attack on garbage, all the cases. The man is very serious and dangerous, in the zone the roof has completely moved down, if you look at him crookedly, he can kill in no time, I guarantee. Nevertheless, you ask, why the hell did such friends or acquaintances surrender? Stupid question. Different acquaintances are needed, this is their benefit. The power of dating is in diversity and reliable dating should be in different areas, even in crime. If you have any problems in this area, who will help you out? Do you know a doctor? Or a physicist you know? I doubt.
Returning to the moose. Despite all of the above, all my sidekicks respect him and always support him. A really cool guy, very reliable in himself, will always help out, always advise and help. If there is some kind of fight or problem, he will definitely intervene and help. It is always more fun and interesting with him in the company, he tells life stories, the man went through the school of life, albeit severe, knows a lot, has seen a lot. By the way, he also has a family, quite normal, except that his wife hangs on him because of alcohol, that he drinks every day, but he loves her, he never said a crooked word to her, did not hit her. But strangers should be careful with him.
Why am I? I mean that dating should be whatever you want, if it is useful. You should not disown a person just because he is a former criminal. Indeed, in life, he can turn out to be a very reliable and cool friend, whom you can rely on in case of trouble. Do not think narrow-mindedly, comrade moralists. No one is immune from crime and prison. I do not encourage crime and going to the zone, as a school of life, but I do not condemn it either, since everything happens in life.
I have a few questions for you, dear forum users.
1. Are there such people in your circle of acquaintances?
2. If so, how many and how close are your relationships (purely friends, or close friends, or maybe relatives)? What do you do with them?
3. If not, why not? Do you deliberately avoid such people, or do you have one intelligentsia in your circle?
4. What are the pros and cons of meeting similar people and maintaining friendly relations with them?
1. there are
2. There are a couple of such acquaintances
3.-
4. There are no special advantages, the same people
Almost everyone has at least one friend or just an acquaintance who has committed crimes in the past or was imprisoned in high security colonies.
There are no such. So not "practically", but probably still "almost". A more accurate term. But I don't know how true this is at all. I don't know the statistics. You probably don't know her either.
But deliberately condemning the person who was sitting is stupid.
It is very annoying to hear when some moralist speaks badly of people who were sitting just because they were sitting.
One thing is important here: for what. And when I found out why, the next question is why. And then you can see from the answers who you are dealing with.
Mak3
He who did not die in the war is not a man.
Thank you, reminded me. Now I won't forget))
1. Are there such people in your circle of acquaintances?
There is one, it works [MUCH WORKED - TIED IT RECENTLY] with us
2. If there is, how many and how close are your relationships (purely friends, or close friends, or maybe relatives)? What do you do with them?
Our worker [but you can say a friend]
3. If not, why not? Do you deliberately avoid such people, or do you have one intelligentsia in your circle?
I didn’t know that he had problems with the law - he didn’t tell us anything about that. And for what he was given - it is not clear.
4. What are the pros and cons of meeting similar people and maintaining friendly relations with them?
In principle, the person is good [both in terms of work and in terms of communication], and they gave him a year in the colony of the settlement [maybe two]
I do not care about the past, I distrust everyone equally. If a person is not sitting, this does not mean that he will not want to, due to some circumstances, punch your head with a stone. Likewise with those who were sitting. The same people. The same thoughts. Perhaps slightly different views. But we are all to some extent animals, and a fluffy kitten may actually turn out to be a boa constrictor.
By the way, whoever remembers Gaumont still has bad news about him. He died near Stanitsa Luhanska at the end of January.
! Svarog
Only recently remembered him. It's a pity, it's a pity: (The
Kingdom of Heaven!
Was he for Parashka or in the militia? Although it makes no difference. Chota even a lump came up to his throat.
Gomon the Elder wrote:
Acquaintances among criminals
We have a thieves' country. So these buddies will come in very handy. And especially in the next 5-7 years.
There is an acquaintance in my house, he was imprisoned for theft, and thanks to faith - Orthodoxy, he was able to get rid of drugs, we communicate, he is a very strong, bright person. Life trials did not let him down, but on the contrary, but this is rather an exception. Now she is raising her daughter, his wife went to another, leaving the child. Therefore, everything is relative. Dignity is not in not falling, but in always getting up and moving on.